Don't Wait For It... Be It
Stop dreaming and start doing
Change doesn’t come to those who sit around and wait for the sky to fall
So that sentence/sentences came to me … honestly I have no idea when it did… but I have had this post in my drafts for some solid months, and here is what I want to say about it:
I have always had dreams, both big and small. And I got to a point in my life where I realized that just because you can visualize it, you see it, taste it, smell it, it is so close it is basically yours… doesn’t mean it will just happen and come to you. You still have to put in the blood, sweat, and tears to get there.
Everyone should have dreams… they are what fill your passions. Having said that, dreams can change, it is even better if they change because it means you are changing as a person! Growing and learning. When I was in 7th grade I wanted to be an oceanographer because I loved my science class… 10th grade I wanted to be an interior designer because my mom took me to a really cool furniture store that had an unreal bunkbed… 12th grade I wanted to be a baker because I liked desserts… and when I was 5 years old I met Cinderella for the first time and I deeply believed I would be her one day. Suffice to say I am none of those things, and I am not mad about it! People change and thus dreams change.
The key factor here is allowing yourself to develop with your dreams. Four years ago I had a dream to be a soul cycle instructor… Why? because I liked it and was good at it. This was the first dream that I couldn’t accomplish on my own and had to force myself to get over and change direction. It was the first time the universe was saying no, before I could change my mind and switch dreams. This was heart breaking and honestly took me a good long time to get over, but you all know that story.
The reason why I am bringing it up again, is because I would have never have found my new dream today without going through the others. I currently work at an event planning company (which you also know if you have read my other posts) and now my dream is to be the #1 Wedding Planner in the world, not the US… THE WORLD. Big big dreams are scary because who knows if that is feasible and how long that even takes, but I am putting it out there, and that is what I want.
Now, I am not going to lie - I did sit around and dream and wait for the sky to fall, because I did have this idea in my mind that it would just work out and ohhhh how wrong I was. I honestly had no idea how much effort it took to make dreams come true. But I know now, and want to share that with anyone who is still reading. So now, we can talk about the not waiting for the sky to fall part…
You need to dream about your dream daily - it should be a constant thought process scrolling through your brain and you can’t get it out of your head because that is how much it means to you
Write down anything you think could help you get that much closer to your dream. Even inches matter
Talk about it - I know that’s scary because when you say it out loud there is no taking it back. But you never know who you are talking too. My friends help me brainstorm all the time, and come up with ideas that I would have never thought of
When times are hard, it’s ok to ask for help, let out a cry, whatever you have to do to keep moving forward. The process is not easy and it’s hard. Everyone needs a hug sometimes, and to be told you’re doing a good job
I think the second you get comfortable, you need to take a step back and dream a bigger dream. The world is so damn big and we are all too good to just keep going on our hamster wheel of life. Get off that wheel and go live your dreams, and work for what you actually want.
